The Best Fiend Named “Boob”
Who is a best friend to you? Who is that one person who would always take your side against all odds? A person who remains constant throughout the most precious years of your life.
Like I told you, in class 7th, 2008, I started making friends and not just any friends. One of them was Arjun; for some reason the class revolved around him. It was that Facebook-Phase, where everything that started; started from FB. The main reason, I jumped to talk about my bestfriend instead of continuing writing about the morons I dated is because, you’ll be reading a lot about this very person. Why? Because it has been 6 years now since I know this person, I grew up with him, I’ve been through all his phases which included;
1) I-want-to-die phase
2) I-am-a-swimmer phase.
3) BasketBall phase.
4) Relationship phase.
5) High-School-Musical Phase
6) Eminem Phase.
7) You-are-my-bestfriend phase
8) Also, I-hate-you phase.
9) Currently ( 2013) EDM and Kobe Bryant and Sarah ( Please Note; Kobe Bryant is Arjun’s inspiration, as well as role model while EDM is the type of music he truly loves, whereas Sana, is his girl. You cannot seperate the Arjun from the Basketball, or the Arjun from the EDM or the the Arjun from his Sarah who he loves the most.)
We were great friend till mid of 2008 until one special day, I slapped him. I slapped him because he was going to disclose my crush who was a geek, a very weird-looking geek. I slapped him and he yelled “FUCK OFF” to me. It was the first time someone actually abused me and I was only 13. So we both eventually ended up crying, I cried as openly as I could while he kept rubbing his eyes, saying “I got something in my eye”
That incident marked our friendship; then it all started, watching him sad, experiencing his first break up, supporting him, watching him play basketball for the first time, fighting with him, fighting for him, watching him succeed, hearing him brag about his sex life; everything. There were times we just drifted off, just stopped talking but I never came to that conclusion that we will never be back to the friends we were. Because as far as I know, bestfriend just don’t drift away. Neither did we.
In class 10th, when I was mopping over a guy like Rihaan, Arjun helped me get over it and I am not saying he was the sweetest person on Earth, he still teases me over that entire relationship. That year was jut filled with him being a constant bitch to me, insulting me and also trying to convince me to gain weight. It was this year, we started to talk about more deeper things that actually troubled us. Arjun, almost the entire class seemed to know him, so did I, but he proved me wrong, even though I was his bestfriend for so long, he never opened up to me till he did later. He was the one who made me go to parties, and made me meet the other guy I actually dated; Rahul. It was around this time, he used to message me every night telling me that something bothers him and I would just ask him to sleep or tell him all the good things he is. It kept going on for a while till I started wondering if he was hiding something from me; which he was. He was dating someone and he told me after 4 months, but I wasn’t angry at all. I was more than happy because the person he was dating was wonderful, and she loved him and as a bestfriend I wanted nothing else for him.
It was like a ritual, every time I needed help or he needed help, we would just try and talk each other out or just wait for things to pull back into place; I knew he could help me solve my problems or maybe help me go through them, it was just good having someone around, you know? Someone who constantly cared and knew you better than anyone.
Even during break ups with my boyfriend(s) where I was wrong, he’d show that I am right and the guys I dated weren’t the right guy. There was a time I stopped talking to Arjun because of a boyfriend and it wasn’t an easy decision, not talking to someone who you grew up with for 6 years, is never an easy decision cause every time something went wrong I wanted to go running to him and I couldn’t. There were times I wanted to talk to him about how bad it felt to not talk to him, which is also one of the reasons why I’m writing this blog; trying to release the burden of everything that was building within me. So again, not talking to him was like 6 years from my life gone in vain. It was hard for me to even look at him. So to top it all, he messaged me that if he turns into an introvert, it’ll be because of me and then something inside me just snapped. What have I done? What have I done? What have I done? I never knew I was so important to anyone to begin with.
Its 2013, we are still best friend and I intent to keep it that way. Boy friends come and go, in my case, they do but I know, if not them or certain friends; I do know I have a best friend who I’ll stick to. Not just today but years from.
He never tells me anything, he expects me to just find out and I would love to but those who know Arjun, also know that he masks his emotions in ways I could never master. It hurts me, I know him; I wrote him what you are reading right now, of course I know him but he just doesn’t want to be wrong ever, even if that means constantly telling me that I try to make my life sound happy. The truth is, my life is happy. I’ve been to places, really dark places and when something bad happens instead of fighting it away, I just keep it aside waiting for it to fade away but naturally it doesn’t. In life, nothing fades, things linger around us almost like memories and forgotten incidents from the past that return to haunt us, but nothing ever fades. They hide. They attack. They win. So again, if one bad thing happens, I feel like all those memories and incidents are let loose upon me, chasing me to an extent I need someone to hear me. Someone to share the echoes of my mind with. Someone like Arjun, who knows me enough to shake me back out of those places. It is not like the world knows my life, it is my choice to be known to my best friend.
During my second school trip, in class 8th, our entire friend circle had this nasty fight and I was in the bus with the rest of my school mates. We were heading back to our hometown and I clearly remember, being really sad and Arjun came to me to talk. This was the year, we had a fight cause Arjun told me I was too girly to be his best friend, so naturally I was hurt ( and I used to cry even more than I actually do now). He tells me that I was a better bestfriend to him last year, and that’s what it took for me to start crying! I told him, straightforwardly “ I won’t involve myself in your life” and he quickly added “ I want you to involve yourself!”
And I guess, that is what I have been doing since then, involving myself in his life and it hurts me when I hear that I don’t know him. He doesn’t know some part of me as well, that is because they are too dark to ever pass my mouth but I know him and I want to keep knowing him but now he won’t let me.
In contrast to the conversation we had in the second school trip, if I compare the conversation we had recently in our last trip as students together, it would just describe how long we have actually come across as people.
In our most recent school trip, that is class 12th, I was thinking a lot, looking at the sea and wondering about things that actually bothered me. It was the first time, I let the doors to those dark places burst open; it was sad, blurred and tangled. Arjun knew I was sad, so he caught hold of me in the bus again, and he asked me what was wrong and he asked me why I think so much and I had answers to none. Deep down I did, but I couldn’t bring myself to speak it. Instead I said that his life was easy and surprised myself by saying that , cause it wasn’t. Arjun’s life was never easy, he suffered, he strengthened, he broke at times and now, he makes me proud in so many levels. Arjun told me that he doesn’t remember half of the things from his past because he has so much already in his mind and like I usually do, I wished to have opened that head of his and go through his thoughts like unread books.
So I guess, the constant fear I have is, to leave school and start all over again. Without my best friend.
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